Tales from my life as a mom of 2 sons and 2 daughters


Cheli On Sunday, October 30, 2005


Hey Everyone,

Doug and I took a road trip for a few days.. up to DC to see my mother. She has never met Doug and I figured once River gets here, we won't have much time for traveling and the day my mom comes down here to see me would be a cold day in hell.. so we went up there and saw her for about a total of 30 minutes the whole 3 days we were there and I took Doug into the city to see some sites. One Friday we went to see my godmother.. I haven't seen her in at least 5 years. It was really good to see her. Found out that my cousin is pregnant again.. (she has a 4 year old daughter and is being induced November 30th with her second) and she was having a babyshower yesterday but I didn't feel like staying in the area for another day so I bought her some stuff off her registry and left it with my godmother on Friday. While we were there we got to talking about what we need for River.. and I was saying how we had gotten almost all of the major stuff bought already except for the travel system... so she had me show her what I meant by a travel system and which one we liked and she BOUGHT IT FOR US!!!!!! It's being delivered sometime at the end the week or begining of next week...

Hehe it's so cute! We also went out today and bought the diaper pail that we wanted, some pacis, and a paci holder for the dishwasher.. we hardly need anything except for CLOTHES and some diapers and medicines.. everything else I think we have.. unless of course there is something major I'm missing?? Ahhhhhh... I am almost 26 weeks.. closing in on the last trimester. Can't wait.

Cheli On Tuesday, October 25, 2005

Hey Everyone,

We had a doctors appointment today.. to see about the cyst that they found on River's brain back in September. Good NEWS!!!!!! The cysts are completely gone. She was able to get a good picture of his mouth and nose (see below) and was able to get some good pictures of his heart and everything is exactly where it should be and as it should be.. She also confirmed again that he is still a boy LOL (good thing since everything we have is for a little boy). She said that he weighs 1 lb 10 oz :) And he is measuring right at 24 weeks but in the 91st percentile in his weight and height for his age she said that she wouldn't worry TOO much right now because its still early BUT that once we hit 3rd trimester he will gain about 1/2 a pound to a pound a week so he has the potential of being a BIG boy. I gained another 2 lbs.. since my appointment in September which puts me at a total of 8 lbs this pregnancy. WOOOO HOOO..

We got the co sleeper today from ArmsReach FINALLY.. ordered the damn thing on October 13th. And we've already put it together and put it up next to the bed so I can get used to having it there and so the cats can get bored with it. We also bought a swing last night at Wal-Mart because it was really cheap.. I managed to put it together ass backwards until the last piece wouldn't fit.. realized what I did and had to undo it all and rebuild it.. stupid thing. But it's SOOOOO cute!!!!! We also bought another pack of diapers (so we have over 200 diapers now in size 1... one more package and I think we'll start buying 2's) How many diapers does the average newborn go through? And we bought some wipes.. I can NOT WAIT FOR HIM TO GET HERE!!!!!!

Anyway.. here are some pictures :)

Cheli On Friday, October 21, 2005

Hey Everyone,

It is 1:15am.. I have to be up for school at 6:30.. why am I still up??? because I have been eaten alive by mosquitos!!!! OMG isn't there some kind of limit as to how many bites one person can have??? I have at least 10... that I can see So I can't sleep because I itch too bad.. poor Doug is going to Wal-Greens or Wal-Mart to try and find something to make it stop itching!

Had a midwife appointment on Tuesday.. I gained 1 whole pound in 4 weeks.. WOOO HOOOO puts me at a grand total of 7 lbs this pregnancy. YAY!!!!! I am measuring right on schedule.. it was the first appointment that she actually measured the uterus from the outside. We listened to River's heart beat and it was in the 150's.. as best as she could get because he is soooooo damn active. She also gave me the stupid Glucose drink.. which they can now only get in orange :( I have to take that before my next appointment on Novemer 17th. That will be my LAST 4 week appointment and then I move to ever 2 weeks :) YAY!!!!! Ultrasound on Tuesday.. can't wait.. want to know if the cyst has gone away. Want to know how much he weighs.. want to see him...

School is going okay.. Doug and I have both gotten letters from the lender for the loans.. both of us got approved. I recieved a letter Wednesday that the check had been mailed to the school. So I will hopefully pick that up tomorrow and then Doug's will probably be there next week we are thinking.. I hope so... Yesterday was a hard day... Doug went to work like usal and about 6:30 I got a call from Vicky.. one of the ladies who works there.. asking me if Doug was okay.. I had NO clue what was going on... Vicky was like "Oh he hasn't made it home yet??" and I knew.. Doug got fired.. *sigh* He is pretty beat up about it.. I'm scared about it but I KNOW we will be okay.. we will do whatever it takes. So it looks like I will be going back to work for a while.. *sigh* whatever it takes to make this work.

We went up to Caremark today for an open house thing.. they are apparently hiring ALOT of people because Open Enrollment season is coming up and they need people. So we signed up for an interview and filled out on-line applications.. they pay 10.60/hr and have 2nd shift shift differental of 10% putting our pay at 11.60/hr.. WOOO HOOOO.. that would put us making 3200 dollars a month between the two of us.. even if i stop working in January.. if we can start the next training class (which is next month). We will get at least 4 pay checks a piece before I stop working and Doug will make 1600 on his own a month... and with loans and grants and his paycheck and available overtime for him.. OMG we would be doing so good.. We go next week for interviews.. wish as luck!

The baby's stuff is coming along nicely.. we have clothes (but need more), we have a bouncer seat, an infant tub, a boppy, some diapers (1 pack of size 1 Pampers)and we ordered the co-sleeper (which should be on the 25th according to UPS)... I want him here!!!! I can't wait.. and yet I'm scared to death LOL

Cheli On Thursday, October 13, 2005

Comcast sent us a webcam... about 2 months ago. Doug just installed it yesterday so I thought I would take some pictures with it. So I took a belly shot... 23 weeks pregnant...

And then today Doug and I went shopping for the baby.. we bought a bunch of clothes and a bath and a bouncer and a boppy.. so I took some pictures of the clothes :)

And we also ordered the baby's bed today.. should be delievered next week some time. And my grandmother is sending us 2 packages of clothes that should get here tomorrow.. We have baby stuff!!!!! YAY!!!!!!!

Cheli On Monday, October 10, 2005

I hate Monday's!!!!!

Doug didn't get home last night until about midnight. We needed food. We went grocery shopping.. didn't get home until 1am. Had to put up groceries, help Doug finish his English paper that was due today, take a shower, and because we went grocery shopping of course I had to EAT something. Finally got to bed about 2am. Alarm apparently went off at 6:30.. I didn't hear it. Doug hit the snooze and get back in bed. Alarm went off at 6:40.. heard it that time but wished I hadn't. 6:40 is way to damn early to be getting up. The sun isn't even up damn it! Grabbed an apple and off we went to class. We turned in our essays today but not before we got to sit with the professor and have her look them over. She made a total of 3 corrections on mine and they were all trivial. WOOO HOOOO. Now watch I'll still get marked down for something LOL.

Ohhhhhhh! Last night (this morning.. whatever) Doug and I were laying in bed trying to fall asleep and he had his hand on my belly. I told him he needed to tell his son to go to sleep because he has decided that night time is a good time to practice soccer or something. So Doug pressed down on my belly a little bit and just lay there. The baby kicked and I asked him if he felt it. He said he wasn't sure. Baby kicked again.. almost directly in the same spot just below his hand and he felt it!!!!!! Doug got to feel the baby kick for the first time hehe. YAY!!! We are officially behind on getting stuff for the baby compared to all my pregnant friends due at the same time as me. It's all good.. it'll happen soon. I hope. Or this kid is going to be sleeping in the bed with us (not that he probably won't be anyway) :) *yawn* I'm tired..


Cheli On Friday, October 7, 2005

Hey Everyone,

I am so beyond exaughsted mentally and physically right now. Midwife never called.. I called her at 11am and they said that they had sent a referral over to the physical therapy place but that the other midwife had never said anything about another ultrasound and that as far as she knew the next ultrasound was the follow up ultrasound on the 25th "to look at the choroid plexus cyst on the baby's brain".. WTH!!!!!!! NO one ever told me my son had a cyst! They told me I needed to come back on the 25th for a follow up because they hadn't gotten a good look at his heart.. I freaked out. Midwife gets off the phone real quick to go call the other midwife to see about the ultrasound. Calls the ultrasound place immediately and they say I can come in but only if I haven't eaten in 8 hours.. which I hadn't because I hurt too much. So off to Fort Sanders Patient Services for an ultrasound to look for a cyst on my overies and too look at the baby. Well the radiologist calls the midwife who says instead to check for "gallstones" and then sends me home afterwards.. never checked the baby never checked my ovaries because that wasn't what the order was for.

So I spent an hour in tears and freaking out after the appointment. I called my mother's girlfriend who is an RN and told her what was going on and she basically said it doesn't matter what they said *I* need to chill out and take care of myself before I go into preterm labor and lose the baby. Well gee thanks that helps. I've been TRYING to get the help and take care of myself but it's like talking to walls. Doug brings me home and drops me off so he can go to work.. and throughout the night I have progressively felt worse and worse.. I have a sore throat, a fever, alot of sharp abdominal pain and pressure, and back pain. I can barely get off the couch and when I do it's to go to the bathroom and take a shower to cool off. I feel horrible and all the midwife can say is physical therapy and pain meds.. I'm not supposed to take pain meds during this stage in pregnancy and the pain meds they keep prescribing I'm not supposed to take at ANY time during pregnancy.. so the most I am taking is extra strength Tylonel and it just isn't cutting it.

Everyon keeps saying I need to take care of me and I need to take care of the baby and because the stress and everything the baby can feel.. that's what I'm TRYING to do but doesn't being in constant pain put stress on the baby too? Or is that not important? *sigh* there is no way to be comfortable right now.. I can't lay down because everything hurts I cant sit because it hurts... if I have to be like this for the next 18 weeks I am going to go insane.

Cheli On

Hey Everyone,

I am at school, waiting for the midwife to call me to tell me what's going on. I was back in the ER last night. I called the midwife yesterday afternoon and told her I was still in alot of pain and nothing I was doing was helping. Basically the midwife on duty told me she didn't know what to tell me, it didn't sound pregnancy related so all she could say was to relax, take a warm bath, use a heating pad and take Tylonel. I wanted to scream at her that I'd been doing these things since Friday when it all started and it wasn't getting better it was getting worse. Instead I thanked her and got off the phone. I talked to Doug and talked to some friends of mine about what was going on. Doug tried to make an appointment with a GP but the insurance book that I have that is supposed to have the names of the physicians who take my insurance is really out dated. Most of the ones we called weren't taking new patients or weren't taking my insurance. *sigh* So finally we decided to go back up to the ER and just tell them that the midwife had already said it wasn't pregnancy related as did 2 different hospitals. So we go up to Fort Sanders and tell them just that and they said it didn't matter. I was over 20 weeks pregnant I was going to L&D to be cleared before they could do anything. So up to L&D where I am again hooked up to a fetal heart monitor and a contraction machine for 2 hours. The baby is fine.. his heart beat was a little faster than normal but he is fine. No contractions. They call the midwife and speak with a different midwife. She says basically don't send me to the ER send me home and they will set up appointments with a physical therapist and an emergency ultrasound. The only other thing "medical" they can think of that might be pregnancy related is possibly a uterine cyst or an ovarian cyst. Lovely. So I was told to go home, get some rest, and someone from the center will call me before 11am today. Went home.. was in so much pain I took a Tylonel 3 and finally fell asleep for 2 hours.. woke up every hour after that until the alarm went off at 6:30 this morning. *yawn* Got up this morning and took 3 extra strength tylonel.. feels like I barely took any. No call from the midwife yet. I am sure when they do call it'll be to tell me that no one can see me until next week and I'll just have to deal or take more pain medication which is not good for the baby or me at this point in the pregnancy. I want to scream. Or cry.. perhaps both.


Cheli On Wednesday, October 5, 2005

Hey All,

Well school is going really well.. I have an A in all 4 of my classes. I got my first Ethics exam back today.. and got 1 point deducted.. I got the best grade in the class and the teacher felt the need to point that out. I about wanted to die. I took my chapter 6 test in Math.. got an 83% not my best score but hell it's good enough. I am almost done with Chapter 7's homework and then I have the test on Friday. Once I take Chapter 7 I just have to take the final exam and then I'll have the credit for that class. I then have the option on whether or not to take the Intermediate Algebra class this semester so that my next semester that I take classes I can just take my Elementary Probablity and Statistics for college credit. The English class is going really well.. out of every assignment total I have only been marked down .25 on one paper.. YAY... and computer class is just a damn joke.

The pregnancy is going okay too... 22 weeks today. Lots of stuff to buy and lots of stuff to do and we are running out of time.. if I carry to my due date it's only 18 weeks away.. OMG... so now I'm starting to freak out about labor and delivery.. 18 weeks away and I'm already freaking out.. I oughta be a damn wreck by the time it happens LOL I am in alot of pain lately.. I have the stretching going on around the sides and it feels like my hips have come out of their sockets now when I walk which is very comfy (NOT) but then on top of that I have been having alot of on again off again pressure and cramping.. Actually spent 5 hours in labor and delivery the other night hooked up to machines.. I was having mild contractions according to the more umm... well kept... hospital and absolutely nothing according to the other one.. Of course the 2nd one said that they couldnt' get a reading on my son's heart beat either because he was too active.. but ParkWest had no problem getting a reading on him.. 143-148. Stupid hospital. Stupid doctors.. I think it migh be a kidney infection or something. I am calling a family practice tomorrow and making an appointment with a regular practitioner.

The other big news.....I quit work today. Everyone has been telling me for weeks that I need to slow down,that I was pushing it too hard.. so when I went to school today I fell asleep after my computer class waiting for Doug to get out of his class and then had trouble walking.. I cant' stay awake during the day anymore and I don't sleep through the night. So I figured it was best for me and the baby if I took some time off.. and since I can't drop school because I'm too far in.. work was the only other option... It'll be tough but we can do it as long as we are smart. I cried for a good 30 minutes.. my boss said she will put me down as rehirable and write an extenuating circumstances letter for HR so they will rehire me when I want. So now I don't know what to do with myself.. I am going to see if I can find something to do from home or something.. maybe babysit a kid or something part time.